• Building, Nurturing, And Maintaining Good Relationships
• As we prepare for a series about how we treat others, we need to know how God wants us to do this.

• Introduction
• Every relationship requires a minimum of two parties.
• These parties may be family, friends, business people, co-workers, neighbors, teammates and so many others.
• These may be people you share something with if even for a short time (like sharing the elevator as both of you are going up or down).
• You may be sitting in a doctors waiting room with several other persons. All are there for a purpose, and for a brief moment, you all share in that purpose.
• How you interact with others speaks greatly towards your character and how others perceive you to be.
• Some relationships are between humans and animals, or animals with animals (including birds, reptiles, amphibians, and fish).
• Most relationships in nature produce the greatest benefit for both parties.
• Many plants rely upon animals for pollenization.
• We have seen many examples of one species working with other species.
• In a few cases, the relationship requires the sacrifice of one for the benefit of the other.
• Nature is amazing and every so often we are surprised by some examples of it.
• I have seen many videos of different species that have a special relationship with each other.
• Some of these are not natural as we think it should be.
• Yes, humans can learn a lot if they look to nature to see how creatures get along with each other.
• There are relationships that go beyond our human experience.
• The relationship with God is to be the most important one we will ever have.
• In order to have a relationship with God, He requires we have a good relationship with others.

• Others
• “Others”-- a simple term that means someone or something that is different than you or the thing being mentioned.
• When we speak of others, we are addressing how our faith impacts others.
• Philippians 2:3-4 – let each esteem others better than himself. This will be our theme verse.
• 2 Timothy 2:2 – commit to others – we share God’s word with others.
• Jude 23 – but others save with fear, pulling them out of the fire…
• Matthew 23:23 – a thing – in this case keeping ALL of God’s word. “These you ought to have done, without leaving the others undone.

• Other descriptions of others
• “One another” – this is an expression that implies mutual edification – where we are building each other up. You cannot have “one another” without others.
• Fellowship – the idea of fellowship is sharing something spiritual with our brethren. The term clearly implies a relationship.
• Philippians 2:1 speaks of our fellowship of the Spirit, etc.
• Fellow – the word means, one who works together with someone else (Romans 16:3 –
• “fellow workers” – our English word, “synergy” is a derivative of this Greek word);
• Ephesians 2:19 speaks of us being “fellow citizens”;
• Brethren (brotherhood) – a description of how we are a family.
• 1 Peter 2:17 calls for us to love the brotherhood.
• Many other words will be added to these as we progress in this study.

• What Should We Do About Others?
• There are a handful of principles in scripture that remind us that we must be thinking about others.
• We will not reach perfection in faith by ourselves.
• That is why we must give serious consideration to others.
• And this we will do in this series of lessons!

• “It’s not about me!”
• As you study the New Testament it becomes clear that the life of a Christian is not one of selfishness.
• While your ultimate goal is for YOU to get to heaven, it is a path that impacts others in virtually all that we do.
• This may be the hardest part for us to realize in these lessons.

• We do not live in a bubble.
• Monasticism (where we get the word for Monastery) is not the lifestyle of a Christian.
• Whether we are speaking the monastic lifestyle of monasteries or isolationist communities (such as Amish or communes) we must realize we have a responsibility to live in the world.
• While there is something to be said about not letting the world live in us (be separate), we should not be isolating ourselves from the world.
• Perhaps for a short time it might be good to get away and be with other Christians, but we need to live in the world.
• As Jesus prayed for His apostles in John 17:14-17, He noted that they are in the world but not of the world. He even requested “I do not pray that You should take them out of the world, but that You should keep them from the evil one.”
• How can we be an impact in the world if we totally isolate ourselves from OTHERS?

• You are a servant of Christ
• One of the first things we realize is that our life is about serving Him (Galatians 2:20).
• A servant by its very definition involves others.
• 2 Corinthians 5:14-15, “For the love of Christ compels us, because we judge thus: that if One died for all, then all died; and He died for all, that those who live should live no longer for themselves, but for Him who died for them and rose again.”

• Christians also serve others
• God is a God of others – He cares about us – John 3:16, 1 Peter 5:7 notes that “He cares for you.
• Jesus came to serve –Mark 10:45 – Jesus did not come to be served, but to serve.
• See also Philippians 2:7 & John 13:1-15,
• Jesus washed the feet of His apostles. Vs. 12-15 shows why.
• It was not so much a ritual, as teaching us that we are to serve one another.
• We strive to imitate Christ – 1 Corinthians 11:1, John 13:15, “For I have given you an example, that you should do as I have done to you…”
• Galatians 5:13, “For you, brethren, have been called to liberty; only do not use liberty as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another.”
• In Mark 10:42-44 which leads us to what Jesus did.
• Galatians 6:2 calls for us to bear one another’s burdens.

• What is the church?
• Universally, it is the body of ALL who are saved.
• Locally, it is a body of saints joined together for the purpose of work and worship.
• The emphasis of a body is seen in 1 Corinthians 12:12-27, where we find that each part has a function.
• Together we are the body and when we are functioning with consideration of OTHERS, it will cause growth of the body for the edifying of itself in love. (Ephesians 4:16)
• You cannot have a local church without others.
• Furthermore, when one within a congregation seeks to dominate without the others there will be problems.
• The Bible deals with this as well – cf. 3 John 9-11 – Diotrephes loved the preeminence.

• The greatest commands involve others
• God and man – Matthew 22:37-39.
• The word love (agape) is defined as, “Caring enough to sacrifice for what is best.”
• That affects every relationship we are in as Christians –
• God’s love toward us and our love toward God, our neighbors, our brethren and even our enemies.
• Love God (another) with all your heart
• Love your neighbor as yourself.
• This phrase is from Leviticus 19:18.
• But it is also mentioned in the New Testament several times – Romans 13:9, Galatians 5:14, and James 2:8.
• In Luke 10:27 where Jesus is asked by a lawyer what is the greatest commandment, He asks the lawyer to answer it. He correctly answers with this command. The lawyer then, “seeking to justify himself said to Jesus, “And who is my neighbor?”
• Jesus then tells the parable of the Good Samaritan (Luke 10:29-37).
• Again the emphasis is one of thinking about others.

• Caring about others
• Along with the Good Samaritan, there are numerous passages that call for us as Christians to care about the needy, both within and without the Lord’s body –
• The continual teaching in scriptures about being generous is about others. James 1:27,
• Galatians 2:10 - “they desires only that we should remember the poor, the very thing which I was also eager to do.”
• 1 Timothy 6:18 – the rich ought to be rich in good works, ready to give, willing to share…
• Luke 14:12-14 – when you give a feast invite those who cannot repay you.
• One of many parables dealing with the needy.
• The idea of example is about others
• Matthew 5:13-16 – you are salt and light. Let is shine so that God is glorified.
• Romans 13:10 – “Love does no harm to a neighbor. Therefore love is the fulfillment of the law.”
• Live with conduct honorable among unbelievers – 1 Peter 2:11-12., 3:15-16 –
• living in such a way that those who revile you may be ashamed (when disproven).
• You cannot show yourself to be an example if you are not around others.

• Attitudes
• Both good and bad demonstrate our concern for others.
• Love, humility, longsuffering, brotherly love, kindness, assuming the best, etc – these all are related to others.
• Similarly, ungodly attitudes such as selfishness, pride, arrogance, wrath, bitterness, grumpiness, envy, gossip, etc. will negatively affect others.
• That is why the Bible give clear direction on attitudes and our conversation.
• Galatians 5:19-22.

• In everything we do, we need to consider how it affects others.
• Romans 14:7-8, “For none of us lives to himself, and no one dies to himself. For if we live, we live to the Lord; and if we die, we die to the Lord. Therefore, whether we live or die, we are the Lord’s.”
• In a text that addresses matters of liberty (things about which God is indifferent – whether or not we observe a day, what we eat, etc.) Paul notes that what we do, even if it is not wrong in itself, needs to be done thinking about how it impacts others.
• He also addressed this in 1 Corinthians 8:9-13 where he speaks of considering the conscience of a weaker brother.
• This is also addressed in 1 Corinthians 10:32-33.

• Evangelism is about others
• Mark 16:15, Matthew 28:19-20 – when Jesus gave the “great commission” to His apostles (and disciples) He implied that the gospel is not something to keep to ourselves.
• IF there is to be a church in the next generation, we are expected to try to reach others.
• 2 Timothy 2:2 – 4 generations.
• 1 Peter 3:15 – be ready to give a defense. Etc.
• We will continue to address reaching the lost as this study continues.

• Conclusion
• It is most certainly clear that the Bible emphasizes our relationships with others.
• Our souls destiny really does depend on how we treat others despite how they treat us.
• Hopefully, we will come to learn to love each other as our Lord commanded us to do.
• Hopefully our relationship with each other will become stronger and we will help each other get to heaven.
• So please, consider very carefully what we will discuss in the next few lessons.

By Carey Scott based on a series of sermons by Tommy Thornhill Jr

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